Comments for Sexual Racism Sux! http://www.sexualracismsux.com ... because ours is a world of love. Wed, 09 Nov 2011 21:17:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Links by andyq http://www.sexualracismsux.com/links/#comment-47733 andyq Wed, 09 Nov 2011 21:17:56 +0000 http://www.timbomb.net/racism/links/#comment-47733 <p>Hey. Thanks for the heads-up. I've just gone through to do an update - it hadn't been done in a long time!</p> Hey. Thanks for the heads-up. I’ve just gone through to do an update – it hadn’t been done in a long time!

]]> Comment on Links by Sam Longacre http://www.sexualracismsux.com/links/#comment-46138 Sam Longacre Tue, 11 Oct 2011 00:12:33 +0000 http://www.timbomb.net/racism/links/#comment-46138 <p>Your first four links under "essays and articles" no longer link to actual pages--I didn't try them all, so I'm not sure if there are any more!</p> Your first four links under “essays and articles” no longer link to actual pages–I didn’t try them all, so I’m not sure if there are any more!

]]> Comment on Get Involved by Radio Atticus 24 February « Radio Atticus http://www.sexualracismsux.com/get-involved/#comment-35103 Radio Atticus 24 February « Radio Atticus Thu, 24 Feb 2011 08:58:26 +0000 http://www.timbomb.net/racism/get-involved/#comment-35103 <p>[...] 1. Tim Mansfield, creator of the Sexual Racism Sux campaign [...]</p> [...] 1. Tim Mansfield, creator of the Sexual Racism Sux campaign [...]

]]> Comment on Welcome to the new Sexual Racism Sux! site. by phil anderson http://www.sexualracismsux.com/updates/2006/01/18/welcome-to-the-new-sexual-racism-sux-site/#comment-28035 phil anderson Tue, 18 May 2010 12:32:36 +0000 http://www.timbomb.net/racism/updates/2006/01/18/welcome-to-the-new-sexual-racism-sux-site/#comment-28035 <p>I appreciate the sincere effort of everyone involved with this project, and would like to offer a few insights of my own, which might help fill in any "gaps" which to my mind remain in the initiative.</p> <ol> <li><p>the domain name of this site "sexual racism sux" is itself an expression of negative preference. i would be far happier if i could see the site hosted on a domain which "walked the walk", e.g. expressed a positive rather than a negative preference.</p></li> <li><p>i can see that someone might be damaged by all these statements of negative preference. but is there another side to the coin we are not seeing? for example, is there a risk we might damage the self-esteem of people who (through lack of development or education) still happen to hold preferences, by asserting our own preference against preferences? will this message itself leave anybody feeling diminished? you can probably see where i am coming from with this, i do not want to feel i am committing hypocrisy by "discriminating against those who discriminate", or being "prejudiced at prejudice". i wonder if the overall message could be improved to guard against this hidden danger?</p></li> </ol> <p>cheers guys,</p> <p>phil X</p> I appreciate the sincere effort of everyone involved with this project, and would like to offer a few insights of my own, which might help fill in any “gaps” which to my mind remain in the initiative.

  1. the domain name of this site “sexual racism sux” is itself an expression of negative preference. i would be far happier if i could see the site hosted on a domain which “walked the walk”, e.g. expressed a positive rather than a negative preference.

  2. i can see that someone might be damaged by all these statements of negative preference. but is there another side to the coin we are not seeing? for example, is there a risk we might damage the self-esteem of people who (through lack of development or education) still happen to hold preferences, by asserting our own preference against preferences? will this message itself leave anybody feeling diminished? you can probably see where i am coming from with this, i do not want to feel i am committing hypocrisy by “discriminating against those who discriminate”, or being “prejudiced at prejudice”. i wonder if the overall message could be improved to guard against this hidden danger?

cheers guys,

phil X

]]> Comment on Welcome to the new Sexual Racism Sux! site. by daniel http://www.sexualracismsux.com/updates/2006/01/18/welcome-to-the-new-sexual-racism-sux-site/#comment-10 daniel Wed, 22 Mar 2006 10:09:55 +0000 http://www.timbomb.net/racism/updates/2006/01/18/welcome-to-the-new-sexual-racism-sux-site/#comment-10 <p>It's obviously about individual psychology. The more specific we make our sexual preference requirements, the more we lose touch with reality. That's just what it's all about. Distraction from reality. Sexual fetishes are an extreme example of this. Requirements that are just far too specific. If you were genuinely interested in someone, you'd just do whatever worked compatibility wise. Basically, the more an individual limits his or her outlook, the more they close themselves off from "potential" in general.</p> It’s obviously about individual psychology. The more specific we make our sexual preference requirements, the more we lose touch with reality. That’s just what it’s all about. Distraction from reality. Sexual fetishes are an extreme example of this. Requirements that are just far too specific. If you were genuinely interested in someone, you’d just do whatever worked compatibility wise. Basically, the more an individual limits his or her outlook, the more they close themselves off from “potential” in general.

]]> Comment on Rebuttal… of a kind… from Antwerp by timbomb http://www.sexualracismsux.com/updates/2006/01/30/rebuttal-of-a-kind-from-antwerp/#comment-5 timbomb Tue, 14 Feb 2006 08:26:11 +0000 http://www.sexualracismsux.com/updates/2006/01/30/rebuttal-of-a-kind-from-antwerp/#comment-5 <p>But when I said that "the gay community is a good deal broader than he implies" I meant that the gay community is composed of a broader range of people than you describe. Hence things aren't as hopeless as you portray.</p> <p>Also, as I said, I believe narcissism is a stage that can be grown out of. You say talking will do no good, I say it can't hurt. If we don't try we don't know.</p> <p>Your argument in this comment seems to be that if every culture was as accepting of the gay community as Belgium, then the true horror of our narcissism would be more evident... is that really what you're trying to say?</p> <p>I'm still waiting for some justification for the "bloatware rhetoric" slur :)</p> But when I said that “the gay community is a good deal broader than he implies” I meant that the gay community is composed of a broader range of people than you describe. Hence things aren’t as hopeless as you portray.

Also, as I said, I believe narcissism is a stage that can be grown out of. You say talking will do no good, I say it can’t hurt. If we don’t try we don’t know.

Your argument in this comment seems to be that if every culture was as accepting of the gay community as Belgium, then the true horror of our narcissism would be more evident… is that really what you’re trying to say?

I’m still waiting for some justification for the “bloatware rhetoric” slur :)

]]> Comment on Rebuttal… of a kind… from Antwerp by Antwerpenkaai http://www.sexualracismsux.com/updates/2006/01/30/rebuttal-of-a-kind-from-antwerp/#comment-4 Antwerpenkaai Sun, 12 Feb 2006 10:46:57 +0000 http://www.sexualracismsux.com/updates/2006/01/30/rebuttal-of-a-kind-from-antwerp/#comment-4 <p>After having spent some time in the USA, I'd say that the gay community over there may be a good deal broader socially (well, they bring in the bucks, being a targeted niche-market), but only in some very select large cities, with very restricted liberties. "Internal discrimination" obviously remains a major issue, but liberties, general social acceptance and a caring legal framework are basically far more important.</p> <p>Being Belgian (like in Belgium, Europe ;-) I can marry my male lover, adopt a child and take legal action when I'm discriminated against. Most Belgians of all ages feel that tolerance and acceptance are part of our heritage. Hate-crimes against gays are virtually non-existent over here.</p> <p>In many parts of the world (including the US, Australia or even England, just 50 miles West from the Belgian coastline) this general, cultural acceptance does not exist.</p> <p>Which brings me to the point I made in my OP.</p> <p>When a society in general fundamentally does not discriminate against it gay citizens, the "self-centered, narcissistic bubble of the gay community" becomes an much more prominent (and visible) issue.</p> <p>I doubt whether "talking" to a group/someone with "issues" that generally take time to fade out (like narcism ;) can be of any use.</p> <p>We both come from very different cultures. Acknowledging that these differences are far more important than being straight/gay may be a step in the right direction.</p> <p>Peter - Antwerp, Belgium, Europe. http://spaces.msn.com/antwerpenkaai</p> After having spent some time in the USA, I’d say that the gay community over there may be a good deal broader socially (well, they bring in the bucks, being a targeted niche-market), but only in some very select large cities, with very restricted liberties. “Internal discrimination” obviously remains a major issue, but liberties, general social acceptance and a caring legal framework are basically far more important.

Being Belgian (like in Belgium, Europe ;-) I can marry my male lover, adopt a child and take legal action when I’m discriminated against. Most Belgians of all ages feel that tolerance and acceptance are part of our heritage. Hate-crimes against gays are virtually non-existent over here.

In many parts of the world (including the US, Australia or even England, just 50 miles West from the Belgian coastline) this general, cultural acceptance does not exist.

Which brings me to the point I made in my OP.

When a society in general fundamentally does not discriminate against it gay citizens, the “self-centered, narcissistic bubble of the gay community” becomes an much more prominent (and visible) issue.

I doubt whether “talking” to a group/someone with “issues” that generally take time to fade out (like narcism ;) can be of any use.

We both come from very different cultures. Acknowledging that these differences are far more important than being straight/gay may be a step in the right direction.

Peter – Antwerp, Belgium, Europe. http://spaces.msn.com/antwerpenkaai

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